Social Skills (C4 Speech by Eva Yang from Longtan Toastmasters Club)
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7/25的YZU Toastmasters Meeting中，我們來了一位Longtan Club 的嘉賓Eva Yang，她的Vocal Variety與Body Language 生動有趣，並且也把握C4 演講的目標：How to Say it。她分享的如何增進social skills 十分實用，使大家獲益良多。讓我們一起來回顧她的演講影片，也歡迎Eva 與她的男友Li-Wei 以後常來YZU Toastmasters Club 參加我們的meetings！
by Eva Yang
[Opening]-drama first
“Good evening, Dr. Lee. I’m Eva, Yang. I am
from Longtan Toastmasters… Nice to meet you. ” --shy--
“Hi~ Eva, well… Nice to meet you. ”
The biggest problem for Taiwanese to learn
social skills is that we are lack of self-confidence. Mostly, we find ourselves
not so charming, not so intelligent, and even not so professional on the specific
issue. Thus, Silence is gold. We choose to close our mouths all the time. But,
that’s not the way how you improve yourself to a well-connected expert.
[Body]
1.
First of all, shake off your face! Not to
be afraid of being refused since nobody is perfect. I would like to offer my
personal remedy for self-confidence. Give yourself some remarkable titles such
as “the best-looking girl in the office” (Actually I am the only female). Face
the mirror and give compliments to yourself. When building up enough courage
and confidence, you’ll be brave in a social situation.
2.
Successful social skills require smiles.
People tend to adore cheerful guys, rather than blue ones. Laughter is the
shortest distance between two people. During the conversation, body languages
also reveal a person’s thinking. For example, crossed arms could build up a
defensive wall and block out any new friends. Next time, try to expand your
body like doing catwalk. These movements can signify confidence and make companions
at ease. In addition to proper gestures, a sincere heart can warm up the
conversation as well. Always be honest to your partners; otherwise, they will
escape. The most important thing of all, try to avoid being "the King of Period", which means a person who often puts an end to a conversation
unintentionally.
--an ideal conversation--
A: Hey, haven’t seen you for a long time.
How’s everything going?
B: Pretty good! I went to Kenting and
enjoyed surfing last week. Do you want to see the photos?
A: Wow, and you buy a new phone! ...(go on
with the conversation)
--King of Period--
A: Hey, haven’t seen you for a long time.
How’s everything going?
B: Good! (and awkward silence…)
A: Uh! How’s your vacation? Did you take a
trip to somewhere?
B: None, can’t afford/no money! (and
awkward silence again…)
Unless you meet with a talkative person or
you want to ruin the conversation, it is better for you to answer the question
in detail.
3.
Once you grasp the essence of social
skills, you can step further to broaden your horizons. If you are lack of
opportunities to communicate, why not just join some [Toastmasters] clubs that
you are interested in? In a regular meeting, you can implement all the social
skills and earn the precious experiences.
[Conclusion]
All in all, social skills training can be
divided into 3 parts. Brave yourself first. During the conversation, you can
pay attention to sweet smiles, body languages, honest heart, and not to be the
king of period. Finally, you can take every chance to practice these social
skills.
Through meeting various friends, you can
build up your own social network in the daily life. Keep in touch with some of
them. Maybe next time they can do you a favor surprisingly.
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